3 IDIOTS as a tragedy

Who would have thought that the suicide of the boy who wanted to build a flying helicopter but could not do it as the principal in 3 IDIOTS did not encourage such initiative, forcing the boy to commit a suicide would indeed play out in the real life as well? Among the categories of awards that have been announced for the 57th National Awards is an award given to Nikita Bhagat. She has been given Special Mention for her efforts in Cinematography by the Awards jury. Ironically enough, Nikita Bhagat committed suicide last year. She was a student of Film and Television Training Institute where she was learning the cinematography course, before she chose to depart from this world on her own. Nikita was forced to take this extreme step more than a year ago on February 18, 2009, as she could not cope up with the pressure of study and the related work. Incidentally, Nikita Bhagat got special mention for the cinematography that she had done for film VIJAY.

She was the only child of her parents and like 3 IDIOTS she chose to commit suicide as she could not clear the papers at her institute, underlining our penchant to recognize a talent by virtue of an academic degree rather than giving recognition to the inborn talent per se. Had she been alive the exams which she could not have cleared would not have mattered. But it all required a mentoring at the FTII which nobody seems to have done in this case.

Incidentally her depression started when she was not given due recognition for the film CHASINGANGELA JOLIE for which she had done cinematography and it also had been conferred the award by the Indian Documentary Producers Association as the best student's film. It again would have been the case where a teacher would like to have promoted him protegee instead of recognizing the talent, but snuffing out the life of exciting proportions.

Such talents continue to batter against the system which does not wish to promote people with attitude but is interested in encouraging the persons who are happy to toe the lines of the system. Now that 3 IDIOTS has also been conferred with various awards by the National Awards jury, may be Vinod Chopra, Aamir Khan and Raju Hirani need to take it upon themselves to find at least one Rancho in each academic institution. If they are able to do it, the progress that country would achieve would be much more than what is available today. Would the trio take the challenge on behalf of Nikita Bhagat?

A Byte of Soul Food!

A Byte of Soul Food!

-- To get ‘u’ out of Monday ‘mourning’!

Keys to Good Communication

Good communication with almost anyone--your husband or wife, boss, coworkers, children, parents, or friends--depends on a few basic principles of people handling. Learn these, and you will be well on the way to happy, productive relationships.
Honesty. Good communication is built on mutual respect, and respect depends on honesty. If you want to get off on the right foot with others, be honest and straightforward from the start.

Tact. It's important to be honest, but it's also important to be loving and considerate in your presentation, especially with people who are naturally sensitive or when the subject could be sensitive.

Wisdom. Wisdom is what helps you be tactful. You can get wisdom through experience, or you can get it by asking God for it. He's promised it to you in the Bible, in James 1:5, if you ask Him for it.

Love. When people feel loved or cared for, it puts everything else in proper perspective. You may not do or say everything right, but if others see that you are motivated by love, little problems or misunderstandings won't become big ones.

Prayerfulness. A silent mental prayer is good in any situation, but sometimes praying together and out loud can help things click between you and in the spiritual realm like nothing else. Praying together creates a peaceful atmosphere and inspires unity, and when you acknowledge that you need the Lord's thoughts and help, He's happy to give them.

Positiveness. Being upbeat usually elicits a positive response. Encouragement and sincere compliments are always appreciated.

Initiative. Fear of being misunderstood or rejected often holds both parties back. Taking the first step expresses faith in the other person, which usually helps him or her overcome any reservations.

Timing. Knowing when to say something is often as important as knowing what to say. "A wise man's heart discerns both time and judgment" (Ecclesiastes 8:5).

Sensitivity. It's not good to be so sensitive to your own needs that your feelings are easily hurt, but it is good to be sensitive to others' likes and dislikes, needs, and moods.

Open-Mindedness. People's opinions and the way they approach problems are as different as the people themselves. Turning off your thoughts and being quiet long enough to let others express their feelings conveys respect and fosters positive, fruitful exchanges. People will be much more at ease with you and more likely to turn to you for advice if they know you will be open to what they have to say, even if you don't agree.

Empathy. Put yourself in the other person's position and try to understand the feelings that are behind what he or she is saying.

Patience. It's sometimes hard to listen to what others have to say without interrupting, trying to hurry them along, or finishing their sentences for them, but it's a way of showing love and respect, which pay off.

A Sense of Humor. A little laughter can be just the thing to keep potentially difficult exchanges from getting too intense. Lighten up!

Approachability. The dictionary defines approachability as "invitingly friendly; easy to talk to." When someone knows you will take time for him or her, you've won a friend.

Clarity. There would be a lot fewer misunderstandings between people if they didn't beat around the bush or rely so much on hints. Don't leave others guessing; say what you mean. If you're not sure they understand your point, ask them.

Effort. Sometimes communicating is plain hard work--but the rewards are worth it!

Consistency. People who communicate regularly understand each other better and are more likely to be able to work through problems when they come up.

Chatting

A Good One . . . Must Read!!!

Secret Chat during office hours !

One FRIEND WAS chatting with a female - Online chat.

(Background both are s/w engineers by the way and both work for real big MNC's)

Hero : Hey...GM (Good Morning)... How's u doing today?

Female: VGM...Day is going good and it got better having found u on chat

Hero : wow...am honoured, u know what, my day starts only when I find you on Chat

Female: Yep...me too feel the same...Brb (be right back)'ll get some Coffee.

Hero : OK

(Hero waits impatiently. Meanwhile, his manager comes to his desk ).

Manager : Hey, I need some help from you

Hero : [**** This guy always comes at wrong time] Yeah tell me.

Manager : Could u write a program for me which generates nth prime number, Given value of n. Would you give this by today evening?

Hero : I would do that, but I think it's quite hard, is it ok with you, if I Give it by tomorrow evening.

Manager: Yeah, that would be fine. Thank you [Leaves the place]

(Our hero sighs and stares at his monitor waiting impatiently for Female to Arrive. All of a sudden smiles on his face. Over to chat window...)

Female: Hey, am back

Hero : cool, you know what my manager does, he's kinda..... keeps asking stupid tings, tries to give me stupid work.... $*#&$@

Female: Yeah, it's the same everywhere. Real sick ppl these managers are!!

Hero : Yep, u rite!!

Female: Hey, can u do me a favor

Hero : *smiles* sure, why not.

Female: Hey, I want you to write me a program to print nth prime Number, given N. Would you give that to me by tomorrow evening? Plzzz. You know it's real Urgent for me to work this out

Hero : hey, that's a one-hour's work. Sure check Ur mail in an hour from now. ok?

Female: THIS IS WHAT I ASKED U WHEN I CAME TO YOUR WORK PLACE. NOW YOU KNOW WHO I AM ...!!

AND ONE MORE POINT.... YOUR 1 HOUR TIME STARTS NOW !!

MORAL: Don’t CHAT while you work!

Tosif..Vimul & Varun from left to right

Relationship matters a lot in life

A boy and a girl were playing together. The boy had a collection of marbles. The girl had some sweets with her. The boy told the girl that he will give her all his marbles in exchange for her sweets. The girl agreed.

The boy kept the biggest and the most beautiful marble aside and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him all her sweets as she had promised.

That night, the girl slept peacefully. But the boy couldn't sleep as he kept wondering if the girl had hidden some sweets from him the way he had hidden his best marble.

Moral of the story: If you don't give your hundred percent in a relationship, you'll always keep doubting if the other person has given his/her hundred percent.. This is applicable for any relationship like love, employer-employee relationship etc., Give your hundred percent to everything you do and sleep peacefully.

Quotes

"A person should not be too honest.
Straight trees are cut first
and Honest people are victimized first."  

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"Even if a snake is not poisonous,
it should pretend to be venomous." 

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"The biggest guru-mantra is: Never share your secrets with anybody.! It will destroy you."

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"There is some self-interest behind every friendship.
There is no Friendship without self-interests.
This is a bitter truth."

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"Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions - Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply
and find satisfactory answers to the se questions, go ahead."

 
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"As soon as the fear approaches near, attack and destroy it."


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"Once you start working on something,
don't be afraid of failure and
don't abandon it.
People who work sincerely are the happiest."

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"The fragrance of flowers spreads
only in the direction of the wind.
But the goodness of a person spreads in all direction."

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"A man is great by deeds, not by birth."


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"Treat your kid like a darling for the first five years.
For the next five years, scold the m.
By the time the y turn sixteen, treat the m like a friend.
Your grown up children are your best friends."

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"Books are as useful to a stupid person
as a mirror is useful to a blind person."

 
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"Education is the best friend.
An educated person is respected everywhere.
Education beats the beauty and the youth."

 " тнє ƒυтυяє вєℓσηgѕ тσ тнσѕє ωнσ вєℓιєνє ιη тнє вєαυту σƒ тнєιя ∂яєαмѕ. "

WINGS

There was once a lonely girl who longed desperately for love. One day while she was walking in the woods she found two starving song birds. She took them home and put them in a small gilded cage. She nurtured them with love and the birds grew strong. Every morning they greeted her with a marvelous song.. The girl felt great love for the birds. She wanted their singing to last forever.

One day the girl left the door to the cage open. The larger and stronger of the two birds flew from the cage. The girl watched anxiously as he circled high above her. She was so frightened that he would fly away and she would never see him again that as he flew close, she grasped at him wildly. She caught him in her fist. She clutched him tightly within her hand. Her heart gladdened at her success in capturing him. Suddenly she felt the bird go limp. She opened her hand stared in horror at the dead bird. Her desperate clutching love had killed.
She noticed the other bird teetering on the edge of the cage. She could feel his great need for freedom.. His need to soar into the clear, blue sky. She lifted him from the cage and tossed him softly into the air. The bird circled once, twice, three times. The girl watched delighted at the bird's enjoyment. Her heart was no longer concerned with her loss.

She wanted the bird to be happy. Suddenly the bird flew closer and landed softly on her shoulder. It sang the sweetest melody, she had ever heard.
The fastest way to lose love is to hold on too tight, the best way to keep love is to give it – WINGS,make it Free.~~.

cute love story

Love Means... (a girl and guy were speeding over 100 mph on a motorcycle)
Girl: Slow down. I'm scared.
Guy: No this is fun.
Girl: No its not. Please, it's too scary!
Guy: Then tell me you love me.
Girl: Fine, I love you. Slow down! Guy: Now give me a big hug. (Girl hugs him)
Guy: Can you take my helmet off and put it on? It's bugging me.
In the paper the next day: A motorcycle had crashed into a building because of break failure. Two people were on the motorcycle, but only one survived. The truth was that halfway down the road, the guy realized that his breaks broke, but he didn't want to let the girl know. Instead, he had her say she loved him, felt her hug one last time, then had her wear his helmet so she would live even though it meant he would die.